This is a true story which is connected with me and as a person I saw some of her difficulties. I would like to share her experience with her permission without saying her real name. You will know how a woman is discriminated by many people. Think how we can work against women discrimination.
The story is about my friend’s mother who is called Rani and a daily worker in Sri Lanka. Her family was very poor; she dropped out from school when she studied grade eleven (age – 16), because she is the first baby girl in her family, so her mother could not pay more money for her studies. Almost every work was done by her, but her siblings went school. She was discriminated in her house too. For example, her mother always said her, “Rani, you don’t want to go to school, because you are a girl, so think about you family. You can make food and, sit here and sell this to people.” Her mother didn’t say this politely. However, she accepted and cooked food (“String hoppers” “Thosa” and “hoppers”) and sold it.
After her marriage also, she was not happy with her husband Roshan, because he was drunk. Fortunately, she has depended on her hand, because she has had a job. Roshan loved her, but his relatives and his habit of drinking didn’t allow him to make her happy. His siblings tried to take his money from him by giving alcohol and cigarettes. For instance, his sister often bought alcohol and said him, “Hey, Roshan, Here is the bottle, you can drink. You wife doesn’t like you, so she didn’t, because she doesn’t want you to be happy, but this and I bought for you.” Also, they blamed her in many ways such as connect with many men, steal things, destroy her husband life and etc.
She was very annoyed every time. She worked for her husband even though he didn’t consider about her happiness. However, he never makes her physically weak by beating. She faced many difficulties when her husband suffered by cancer and yellow fever, she only cared about him, but his relations censure that she never took care of her husband, she did everything wrong and she was not a good wife even a woman.
The treatment against his diseases was not worth, so he has passed away, because the doctors identified the diseases after they became severely. . He was in a hospital for three months so every morning she went to the hospital in the morning, afternoon and evening, because she could not stay in the hospital. Unfortunately, there was a big war was going on; however, she woke up early and cooked and went through many check point where the Sri Lankan Army staid and check the properties of people. When he was very ill, she forgave him and treated well him.
In Hindus’ religion, the funeral day of a woman’s husband, she must remove her “Mangalyam” (You can see it below. I have added two pictures) which is worn by husband when they are married. Therefore, she didn’t have Mangalyam in her husband funeral, because her husband sold that for his own purpose which no one knew at that time. She could not say anything, because she didn’t have any evidence. His elder sister said someone, “Ranis sold her Mangalyam, because her family needed money, so she wanted to give it to them.”
Before he died, he rectified his mistake and said to her not to break her siblings’ relationship even though they made mistakes. Roshan said her like a begger, “Rani please, forgive them, don’t revenge them.” Therefore, she has kept in touch with his relations, but her kids know everything what has happened for their mother, so they do not like to be with their father’s siblings.
She has continued her life with many obstacles since she was born. When will it be solved? She trusts her two children make her life brighter. I wish her to get a great future life by her kids. I think her kids make her happier in her future.
-PROOF THAT WOMEN CAN DO EVERYTHING-
While wearing Mangalyam
Note: Every character in this story has been changed for safety.
Citation: Thanks, my dear friend. You gave me a lot of information.